Therapy for Betrayals of Trust
Supporting you toward clarity, hope, and healing—whether you've been wounded or have wounded someone you love
You might be considering therapy for trauma or a betrayal of trust because…
You recently discovered your partner has been unfaithful, whether physically, emotionally, or otherwise. Your world is spinning, your heart is shattered, and you're unsure what to do next.
You've betrayed someone you love and you're drowning in regret, guilt, remorse, sorrow, and shame. You don't understand how things reached this point, and you don't know how to respond to your partner's pain and anger. You want to make it right, but nothing seems to help.
The pain, shame, and despair feel unbearable. You're struggling to eat, sleep, or quiet your racing mind.
You're feeling pressure—from others or from within—to end the relationship, but you're not certain that's the right choice. You want to explore whether repair and rebuilding are possible. You feel the weight of this moment and don't know what to do.
If you're the one who caused the hurt, you may lack the support from family and friends that you need to process what happened and find answers for healing. You might not believe you deserve compassion, reassurance, empathy, acceptance, and healing. But you do!
You may already be in couples counseling and want the additional support of individual therapy to regain your footing and deepen your journey toward understanding and wholeness.
The future feels murky. Sleepless nights are spent worrying about what life will look like when things settle. You're facing a challenge so enormous it's hard to imagine feeling whole and connected again.
Perhaps you've decided to end the relationship and want guidance as you move forward in that direction.
This is one of the most difficult seasons you'll face. You need and deserve support as you navigate this distress. Read on to see if my approach might be right for you.
Betrayal takes many forms—infidelity is just one pathway
Trust, security, and safety can be threatened by various kinds of hurt. One widely recognized form of betrayal involves crossing agreed-upon emotional or sexual boundaries—such as flirting, hidden attractions, secret sexual activity, or covert emotional connections.
Other forms of betrayal can emerge through repeated patterns of: 1) dishonesty, omissions, or broken promises, 2) leaving or threatening to leave during difficult times, 3) speaking negatively about your partner to others, 4) unfair division of finances, resources, or household labor, 5) withdrawal of sexual interest and physical intimacy, 6) disrespect, ridicule, or sarcasm, 7) cold, unresponsive, disinterested, or unaffectionate behavior, or 8) emotional or physical abuse.
Adapted from The Science of Trust, John M. Gottman, PhD
Navigate this season with support, wherever your path leads
Discovering infidelity or experiencing betrayal can trigger a crisis and create a profound wound. The aftermath often feels chaotic and uncontrollable as you manage intense, difficult emotions. Whatever your circumstances, there is genuine hope for healing.
Through education and evidence-based therapy, I help you make sense of what you've experienced and work through the intense emotions that follow. We'll explore how the betrayal has affected your sense of safety and security as you gain clarity about your path forward.
We'll examine the meaning of this painful experience and what it reveals about you, your relationship, and what you value. Why did this happen? How could I have done this? Where do we go from here?
Together, we'll explore what's been lost and chart a course toward understanding, wholeness, growth, and forgiveness—whether that means rebuilding trust or finding peace as you move forward separately.
Throughout our work together, I collaborate with you on your care to ensure it aligns with your goals and desired outcomes. Engagement, compassion, and acceptance are at the heart of how I believe people change and build fulfilling, resilient lives.